Tuesday, February 13, 2018

feeding your wolves

I recently watched a commencement speech on YouTube by Matthew McConaughey that he delivered a few years back at the University of Houston. He gave numerous points throughout his speech, but this one in particular stood out because it’s something we all deal with on a daily basis—deciding which wolf to feed.

McConaughey said, ”Let's admit it, we all got two wolves in us, a good one and a bad one, you know what I’m talking about — and they BOTH wanna eat… We just gotta feed that good wolf a little more than the other one."

I recently had a conversation with my mom about choices, and how people get themselves in unfortunate circumstances and situations—because of choices. These choices often determine a big chunk of our happiness or our unhappiness, because we have to live with the consequences—good or bad. 

We make our choices and then our choices make us.

The same goes for habits: we have a choice everyday to feed good habits or to feed bad habits. If you are trying to create a good habit, feed it all you want. But if you are trying to stop a bad habit, make the choice to start feeding it a little less.

It is much easier to play the victim in our own lives when things don’t go our way. It’s easy to blame life, your family, your parents, your childhood, your friends, your boss, your environment…but it is YOU and ONLY YOU who can make the choice to change it all. We are the only people in our lives feeding into our circumstances. We are not born winners or losers—we are born choosers. 

We can either lay down and play victim and feel sorry for ourselves and keep feeding where we don’t want to be…or we can buck up and make another choice to take us down another road and feed the path of desire. 

Choice, not circumstances, determines where we end up.

For example: every morning, we either choose to wake up when our alarm goes off or we choose to hit the snooze button. That one simple choice can make or break how your entire morning goes. If you wake up with your alarm, you’ll have time to shower, maybe get a workout in before that, enjoy your coffee, make a good breakfast, be on time for work… or if you choose to hit the snooze button, you might end up running behind schedule, grabbing an unhealthy breakfast on the go or not eating breakfast at all, get stuck in traffic, walk into work late, and start the morning off stressed and frazzled. You see how ONE simple choice is the multitude of so many other areas of your life? 

McConaughey’s speech also goes along with The Tale of Two Wolves:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: 
"Which wolf wins?" 
The old Cherokee simply replied, 
"The one you feed."

The truth is, like McConaughey said, both wolves will always be there. Life is about deciding what is most important to you—and feeding that wolf a little more than the other. 

Keep on keepin’ on—
XX, Laura 

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