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Wednesday, March 20, 2019

things I value more the older I get

The other day I got asked how old I was, and no joke, I had NO idea. I could not remember for the life of me if I was 25 or 26!! Any who, as a mid-twenties something gal, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what’s important to me in my life, and more specifically, what’s becoming more important the older I get…

Here are a few things that have become more valuable to me as the years have passed:

Loyalty 
Through life experience, friendships, relationships, family, etc…I have learned how important loyalty is to me. In fact, loyalty has become EVERYTHING to me. I value it above almost anything else. I am an extremely loyal person myself—I’m talking, if you’re in my life and you’re my friend and I love you and believe in you…I will go to war for you. I will stand up for you, fight for you, be there for you. I am a ride or die kind of chick—unwavering. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned how important it is for me to have that same loyalty in return. I no longer have patience for wishy washy people who “don’t want to choose a side,” “don’t want to get involved,” or worst of all, those who don’t defend me in my absence. There is no gray area when it comes to loyalty—it’s either black or white. 

Unfiltered Friendships 
This actually came to light for me during a conversation over the winter when someone asked me, “How many people do you feel you have in your life that know the real you?” I thought about it for a while, and surprisingly (and kind of sadly at first) I realized that that list for me is very small. Mind you, there’s a big difference between *feeling* like you know someone and REALLY knowing someone. No masks, no filters, no hiding sh*t—just simply, being you. I’m thankful that I’ve got a chosen few. 

Authenticity 
I feel like I talk about being authentic a lot, but there’s just something about people who know who they are that I really love, admire and relate to. I went out on a date with a guy last summer that was one of those, “This is who I am, this is what I do, this is what I like…” kind of guys, and I found it SO refreshing. It’s really attractive when someone knows who they are, what they stand for, what they believe in, etc. and they don’t care what anyone else thinks. Real is rare and anyone who’s willing to put their authentic self out into this world is a winner in my book. 

The Art of Eye Contact & Conversation
Being an old soul and someone who loves to talk, I value a good conversation probably more than most. When I say conversation, I don’t mean I need to be talking about history, what’s going on in today’s news, or anything earth shattering… I mean, if I meet someone and they can carry on a great conversation, heck, I will talk about just about anything and everything. Which follows with the art of eye contact—I’m totally divulging one of my long time secrets, but I can always tell how confident someone is by the amount of eye contact they give me. To me, great eye contact makes someone come across as more confident, warm, engaging, attractive, and trustworthy. Conversation and eye contact are so important, yet totally underrated (in my opinion)! 

Manners 
This is a subject that I might step on some toes but I really dgaf. I’m totally an old-fashioned gal and I love the old-fashioned way of doing things. As I’ve been out and about this past year, I’ve noticed that not only my generation, but the older generation seems to be slacking on some basic manners. Holding the door for a woman, taking your hat off in a restaurant, please and thank you, making small talk, pushing in your chair, saying excuse me, etc. I literally held the door for a young teen boy the other night!! Don’t get me wrong, I know everyone is raised differently but basic manners are something that I never want to see go out of style. Manners are cool, respectful, admirable, and extremely attractive. 

Last but not least,

I Admire People Who Want to Grow
The way I look at life is that we’re only here on this earth once (maybe a few times if you believe in reincarnation), but why not try to be the best version of ourselves that we can be? I have a hard time relating to people who don’t aspire to grow or evolve, not because anything’s wrong with them (not throwing shade, judgement, or hate), but because I am someone who wants and needs to be learning, growing, and bettering myself each and every day. I admire people that have that fire to become better, to challenge themselves, to reach for their potential. I want to become the best version of me and I want to surround myself with people who want to do the same. 

Keep on keepin' on —
XX, Laura