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Friday, June 14, 2019

lessons I took away from my sister's wedding

I always like to say that Carrie Bradshaw is my spirit animal. I've watched Sex and the City all the way through more times than I'd like to admit, but when you find a character that almost identically mirrors the story of your life, it's hard not to be obsessed. My sister got married this past weekend to the love of her life and it was absolutely magical. Of course, weddings always get you thinking about love and like Carrie Bradshaw, I couldn't wait to share some thoughts from this past weekend...

Distance doesn’t matter if the love is there.

My sister and her boyfriend (now husband) spent 7 years in a long distance relationship—different states, different countries, a different continent. In fact, they were born and raised on completely opposite sides of the United States. Many people throughout those 7 years said to my sister, “Well how is that going to work?” and “Long distance relationships never last.”  Although it hurt her feelings, she never let it change the way she felt about him. There were certainly tears and difficult conversations over the years, but neither one of them ever gave up on each other.  I admire that and now totally believe that if the love is there and you want to make it work, you’ll do whatever it takes. 

Somebody will love you just the way you are.

We are a world full of imperfect people. Not even Kim Kardashian is perfect. We all have flaws, quirks, times we feel unattractive, insecure or not at our best. When you’re in a relationship, you get to know and see everything about another person—when they’re happy, when they’re sad, good moods, bad moods, sick, healthy, winning, losing, the highs, the lows and everything in between. No matter how we might feel about ourselves at times, it’s comforting to know that the right person will love you just the way you are. You don't have to be perfect to be loved.


“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you that you love, well, that's just fabulous.”

-Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City


The key to a long, happy marriage…

I am an observer and very inquisitive. I am constantly watching and learning from other people. After talking and getting to know the guests, I was blown away by the amount of happily and long married couples that were at my sisters’ wedding. I’m talking 20+ years, 30 years, 40 years, 50 years (my Grandma & Grandpa)…it was heartwarming to see as sadly, divorce seems to be talked about so frequently now. The one thing that all of these couples had in common was that you could clearly see that they enjoyed each other’s company, that they were still having fun together.

Keep the right people in your life.

Any kind of celebration or loss is always a great reminder of who’s really there for you. It’s so important to have people in your life that are just as excited for your happy moments as you are. My sister’s wedding was in a close location for most of our family and friends, but her husband’s side had people traveling from all over the country to be there to celebrate with him. My best guy friend also flew up from the south with his girlfriend to be there for the weekend. People took the time, spent money, and traveled distances to be there. I had never given it too much thought before this wedding, but it’s actually kind of a big deal. I think when family and friends show up to milestone moments like this, it says, “You are important to me.” 

Good times eventually become good memories.

My family planned for this wedding for what felt like forever. The anticipation leading up to it was even more exciting. Then, the day was finally here. Two different sides of the family meeting for the first time. It's a weird feeling knowing that all of the friends and family that came, will never be in the same room ever again. It was so important to my sister and her husband to be in the moment. I tried to be conscious of that all day long as well, knowing that it would all be a memory by tomorrow. We laughed, we cried, we talked, we drank, we danced... it was an incredibly fun and loving night. The whole weekend was amazing. One of those memories that you wish you could relive a thousand times. 

You will be everything to the right someone.

Lastly, and I think most importantly, it's exciting, romantic and hopeful to know that you will be everything to the right someone. You will be someone’s bright light. You will be someone's forever. You will be the love of someone’s life. 


They say when you know, you know. 
XX, Laura 


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